Izinyathelo ze-3! Ukubamba Umlingani Wokubamba Ngokubuyisa Umyalezo Wombhalo Ocacisiwe

Kugcine ukubuyekezwa ngoJuni 16, 2020 ngu-Ian McEwan


Izinkinga Zokungathembeki

Ukungathembeki kuyamunca. Akukho okuzizwa kudabukisa kakhulu kunokuxoshwa ngumuntu omthandayo.

Kodwa-ke, izimo ziyaguquka.

Ngemiyalezo (isb. WhatsApp, Messenger, Line, Viber, njll.), Ukuxhumana okuku-inthanethi, nezingosi zokuqomisana, kulula kakhulu ukukopela othandekayo kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi eminyakeni yamuva.Ukubamba Umlingani Wokubamba Ngokubuyisa Umyalezo Wombhalo Ocacisiwe

Nali icala elijwayelekile lokufuna usizo eQuora:

“Kumele ngithi, ngabhora isithandwa sami ngoWhatsApp ngokungikhohlisa ngomuntu ahlangana naye emsebenzini. Mina naye besibe ndawonye cishe i-3years. Manje, ngiyazi ukumkhahlela enqenqemeni lomgwaqo. Kodwa-ke, inhliziyo yami isavulekile kuye… ngimdala kunaye ngeminyaka embalwa, kodwa bengilindele ukuthi mina naye sikhule ndawonye ebudlelwaneni ebesinabo. Manje njengoba ngilimele, ngididekile, ngithukuthele, ngingazi ukuthi ngenzeni ngami, angifuni omunye umuntu omusha ngoba bengimethemba futhi ukuthembela kunzima impela ukunika umuntu omusha… ngivulekele umbono wanoma ngubani . ; (“

Kuyiqiniso, akuyona inkinga eyodwa.

Futhi kunamaqiniso ongafuna ukwazi ngawo ngokungathembeki.

    • Ngaphezu kwe 60% zezindaba ziyaqala emsebenzini. (Umthombo: Gxila emndenini). Futhi 36% yabantu bayavuma ukuthi bayathandana kwi uhambo lwebhizinisi.
    • Mayelana 20% -25% labantu e-United States abake bakhohlisa ngenkathi beshadile. Futhi ucwaningo lwase-Indiana University lukhombisa ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane bayakopela ngesilinganiso esifanayo. Kepha tamazinga wokungathembeki kwabesifazane akhuphuke nge-40% kumashumi eminyaka edlule we-5.
    • Ukuthandana nomuntu okungokomzwelo kuvame ukwedlula into yomzimba. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, mayelana 45% kwamadoda futhi 35% Kwabesifazane bake bathola abathandanayo ngokomzwelo, ngenkathi 20% yabantu bayavuma ukuthi bayathandana ngokomzimba.
    • 54% Kwabesilisa ne 70% Abesifazane abazi ngemisebenzi yokushada yowashade nabo.
    • Amaphesenti amadoda / abesifazane abavuma ukungathembeki nge umlamu noma udadewenu is 17% namaphesenti nge net pal is 18%.
    • Imininingwane eminingi mayelana nokungathembeki.

Abathandi banxanela ukuthandwa, kepha kwesinye isikhathi bavele bande kakhulu. Maye!

Ngiyethemba uzoba nenhlanhla ngokwanele ngaphandle kokuhlangabezana nalezi zinkinga zokungathembeki, kepha kwesinye isikhathi, kuyenzeka kuwe kuphela ukuthi ungaziqonda izinamba ezibandayo.

Kafushane nje, kufanele uzilungiselele futhi wazi okufanele ukwenze, uma kwenzeka.

“Manje, kunezindlela ezintathu engicabanga ukuthi ukungathembeki kubuhlungu ngokuhlukile namhlanje. Sinesifiso sothando lapho siphendukela kumuntu oyedwa ukufeza uhlu olungapheli lwezidingo: ukuba yisithandwa sami esikhulu kunazo zonke, umngane wami omkhulu, umzali ongcono kakhulu, umuntu engimethemba kakhulu, umlingani wami wezemizwa, olingana nami ngokomqondo. Futhi nginguye: ngikhethiwe, ngihlukile, angibalulekile, anginakubekwa ndawo, yimi enginguye. Futhi ukungathembeki kungitshela ukuthi angisiye. Kungukukhaphela ekugcineni. Ukungathembeki emishadweni kuqeda isifiso esikhulu sothando. Kodwa uma kuwo wonke umlando, ukungathembeki ebelokhu kubuhlungu, namuhla kuvame ukuba buhlungu, ngoba kusongela ukuzethemba kwethu. ”- Ngu U-ESTHER PEREL

 

Ngakho-ke. Ungabhekana kanjani lokhu shits? Ungayibamba Kanjani Umlingani Wokukhohlisa?

Nayi indaba ngoNancy, oshadile, izingane ezimbili.

Ngolunye usuku umyeni wakhe u-Eric ebuya ohambweni lwebhizinisi, kanti uNancy wayedlala kwi-iPhone 8 yakhe entsha ngenkathi u-Eric egeza lapho ebona umyalezo we-WhatsApp uvela esikrinini: “Ngidinga ukukuzwa ngaphakathi kimi…”Wakhophozela. Bese kuba omunye umyalezo: ” Ngizizwa ngincane kakhulu lapho usonga izingalo zakho ngami… Ngikukhumbula kakhulu”Kukhona okubi okwenzekile, uNancy wabona futhi wezwa yonke into empilweni yakhe yonke iwa. Esikhundleni sokuxakeka, wabeka phansi i-iPhone wazenza olala ngemuva kokuphefumula kanzima imizuzu embalwa. Kwakungobusuku obude.

Uyakopela? Kwenzeke nini? Futhi ihlala isikhathi esingakanani? Ungubani? Umuntu emsebenzini? Noma ukuma ubusuku obubodwa nje? Ingabe ukuhlanganisa, ucansi olukhokhelwayo, ingosi yokuxoxa, ukubhucungwa okuphetha ngokujabulisayo? Ngabe ubukeka ngokwengeziwe? Noma mhlawumbe omncane kakhulu…

Wayephatheke kabi kakhulu.

UNancy wayefisa ukwazi yonke imininingwane yayo ngaphambi kokuhlangana nomyeni wakhe ongathembekile.

Unqume ukubheka futhi ifoni ka-Eric ngakusasa, kodwa uthole ukuthi izingodo zokushayela nayo yonke imiyalezo ezinsukwini ezinhlanu ezedlule isusiwe. Ukuphelelwa yithemba.

Ungenzenjani ukube wawunguNancy?

 

Nakhu okufanele ukwenze Ukubamba Umkhohlisi

Hlanganisa ubufakazi

Cabanga umzuzwana ngokuthi umlingani wakho okopela angazama kanjani ukwenqaba izinsolo zakho (isib. Akukona ukuthi kubukeka kanjani! Akungaboni kahle, njll.), Futhi awuqoqi ubufakazi odinga ukumelana nabo ukuthi uthini.

Abantu abakhashelwa isithandwa sabo banelungelo lokwazi ukuthi kwenzekani. Okungenani, kuzosiza ukuqinisa ukuzimisela kwakho ukubhekana nale nkinga futhi kususe ukungabaza engqondweni yakho.

Ngakho-ke, nazi izeluleko ezimbalwa ezisebenzayo zereferensi yakho.

 

Ithiphu 1. Hunt ukuthola izinkomba zokuphila kwansuku zonke

Njengoba oshade naye ekhohlisa kungenzeka ukuthi ayishintshe indaba yakhe, noma abuze inkumbulo yakho, ngakho ukubhala amaphephabhuku nokuqoqa izikweletu kuyizindlela ezilula nezisebenzayo zokugcina irekhodi lakho konke empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.

Bhala amaphephabhuku ukulandela yonke imininingwane yemisebenzi ebikiwe ngumlingani wakho, ukuthi kufanele futhi nini futhi kuphi? Ngabe kukhona abanye abantu abahilelekile? Yiziphi izaba ezinikezwe? njll.

Bese uqoqa wonke umthethosivivinywa, amaresidi, ukuhoxiswa kwe-ATM, izitatimende zamakhadi wesikweletu, njll. Kumlingani wakho bese uqhathanisa nalokho okushiwo futhi okurekhodwe kumagazini wakho.

 

Ithiphu 2. Ukubamba ukukopela ngokumangala

Hlela ukuvakashela ongazelele emsebenzini, noma ufike ekhaya ngezikhathi ezingalindelekile, noma wenze izimemezelo zokuthi uzosebenza sekwephuzile, bese ubuya ekhaya ngaphambi kwesikhathi, njll.

 

Ithiphu 3. Ukuhlola

Abanye bakho bangaqasha umphenyi oyimfihlo noma asebenzise izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuhlola ukubheka umakhalekhukhwini walowo oshade naye.

Njenge mSpy, okuyithuluzi eliphakeme lokuqapha ifoni abantu abalisebenzisa Landelela imisebenzi yomunye ku-iPhone / Android noma kuthebulethi, like izingcingo ezingenayo. Imiyalezo ye-WhatsApp, i-Facebook, i-SMS, i-GPS, njll.
EN Konke kuthuluzi elilodwa lokulandela uhlelo lokusebenza lengxoxo

Qaphela: Ngamafuphi, wonke amathiphu angenhla ayasebenza. Kepha. Njengoba abashade bakho abanohlonze babonile ukuthi uthole umuzwa wokuphunyuka kwabo, nakanjani bazokwenza kube nzima ngokwengeziwe futhi kube nzima ngokwengeziwe ukutholwa.

Futhi kuzothatha izinsuku ngisho nezinyanga ukuqoqa lonke ulwazi olufunayo.

 

Ithiphu 4. Ukukhetha okuncane okuthatha isikhathi: Phinda ususe umlayezo wombhalo ovela kwiselula yomlingani we-Cheating

Namuhla, sonke singumlutha wezingcingo zethu cishe usuku lonke. Idatha yeselula, ikakhulukazi imiyalezo, iqukethe yonke imfihlo onayo.

Uma uke wasibona isiqephu “ Umlando Ogcwele Ngawe" ukusuka I-Black Mirror, ngeke umangale ukuthi abalingani bakho abakhohlisayo bazosusa noma yini ethathwa njengobufakazi bokuphunyuka kwabo (isib. imilayezo, izingodo zokushayela, oxhumana nabo, njll.), lapho bazi okuthile.

Izithombe-skrini ezivela kusiqephu se-Black Mirror isiqephu 3 Umlando Ophelele Wakho

(Izithombe-skrini ezivela kusiqephu se-Black Mirror isiqephu 3: Umlando Wonke Wakho, ophetha ngomdlalo ophazamisayo ngomfazi okopela.)

Noma kunjalo, ungakususa.

Ukubuyiselwa kwedatha kusuka ku-iPhone kanye ne-android mobile kulula kakhulu kulezi zinsuku uma ukhetha amathuluzi afanele.

Ungathola isofthiwe eningi yokuvuselela idatha ngokwenza i-googling "Ukubuyisa idatha ye-iPhone", "ukubuyisa idatha ye-iOS" noma "ukuvuselelwa kwedatha ye-Android"

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ungenasikhathi esanele sokuhlola zonke lezi software (njengoba kungezona zonke ezithembekile), nazi ukukhetha okubili okulungiselelwe okwenziwe ngesoftware yokutakula idatha:

Khetha enye yezinhlelo zokusebenza yokutusa idatha kakhulu. Ngokwesibonelo, UFonelab we-iOS Or UFonelab we-Android ngokuvamile yamukelwa njengempumelelo kakhulu futhi inezinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokubuyisa idatha ye-iPhone / android emakethe.

 

Futhi Nazi izinyathelo ze-3 zokubuyisa umyalezo wombhalo osusiwe / izingodo zokushayela kusuka kuselula yakho yomlingani oyikhohlisayo.

Isinyathelo 1. Xhuma iselula yabalingani bakho nekhompyutha.

Qalisa Ukubuyiswa Kwedatha ye-iOS/ I-Data Data Recovery. Xhuma i-iOS / umshini we-Android wedivayisi yakho kwikhompyutha ngekhebula le-USB. Chofoza ku- "Ukubuyisa idatha". Ayikho iphasiwedi edingekayo.

Landa i-iPhone Data Revenue Win Landa Ukulanda i-Mac
Thola Isilingo Samahhala nge-imeyili Yokulanda Kamuva Kukhompyutha
Landa Ukubuyiselwa Kwedatha ye-Android Win Landa Ukulanda i-Mac
Thola Isilingo Samahhala nge-imeyili Yokulanda Kamuva Kukhompyutha

Isinyathelo 2. Skena iselula yakho ukuze uthole idatha esusiwe kuyo.

Chofoza "Qala Scan" ukuvumela uhlelo scan idivayisi. Inqubo izohlala imizuzwana kuya emizuzwini embalwa, kuya ngenani ledatha kudivayisi. Ungayikhiphi ifoni ngesikhathi sokuskena.

Isinyathelo 3. Buka kuqala idatha eskenwe bese wembula imibala yangempela yomkhohlisi.

Idatha eskeniwe eyenziwe uhlelo ifaka phakathi idatha esusiwe nengivele ikhona, njengemilayezo, izithombe namavidiyo, oxhumana nabo, umlando wekholi, i-WhatsApp, i-Messenger, i-Viber, i-Kik, njll. Ukuchofoza okukodwa nje kunkinobho ethi “Phinda Uthole”. Ungamane uthole imilayezo, nezithombe ezishintshanisiwe nesifiso esivezwe ngokusebenza kokusebenza.

Thenga i-iPhone Data Lokubuyisela Manje!

Phinda Ususe Imilayezo ye-iPhone, Izingodo Zezingcingo, Oxhumana Nabo, i-WhatsApp, njll.

Thenga i-Win Thenga iMac

Thenga Ukubuyiselwa kwedatha kwe-Android Manje!

Phinda Uthumele Imilayezo ye-Android, Izingodo Zezingcingo, Oxhumana Nabo, njll.

Thenga i-Win Thenga iMac

 

Kuze kube manje, unemikhondo ethile, ikakhulukazi, imibhalo enenombolo yocingo yowena mkhuba wasekhaya. Futhi sekuyisikhathi sokwazi ukuthi ungubani empilweni yangempela.

 

Buyisa Ukubheka

Ngemininingwane oyithola ngokuthola kabusha idatha esusiwe yeselula yakho yabalingane bakho noma ukuqapha nge-mSpy, ungathola kalula lowo oshade naye akopela naye.

I-3 Freeways yokubuyisela emuva ukubheka ngenombolo yocingo

#1 Google it.

I-Google iyinjini yokucinga ehamba phambili emhlabeni wonke. Inekhono lokumba izinto ngaphandle kwamakhona amnyama futhi akude kakhulu e-inthanethi. IGoogle inombolo yefoni, kwesinye isikhathi ungathola ukushaya ngqo. Kukufanele ukudubula.

#2 Facebook isesha.

Ngokungena kwezingosi zokuxhumana nabantu kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwangempela, i-Facebook iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokubheka ngokusekelwe kunombolo yocingo. Mane ufake inombolo yocingo ebhokisini lokucinga phezulu ekhasini lakho eliyisiqalo le-Facebook. Uma umuntu enenombolo yakhe yocingo ehlotshaniswa nephrofayili yakhe ye-Facebook, igama labo lizovela njengomphumela wokusesha ohamba phambili, naphezu kwazo zonke izilungiselelo zobumfihlo zabo noma ngabe ungeyena abangane.

#3 Injini yosesho yamahhala yokubuyela emuva.

Kunamawebhusayithi ambalwa wokubheka ifoni ahlelekile, anjenge abantufinders.com, zlookup.com, Futhi spydialer.com, njll. Ukusesha ifoni ngokubuyisa emuva ngala mawebhusayithi, ungathola ikheli, igama, inombolo yefoni noma i-imeyili.

Thola Noma Ngubani, Noma Kukuphi

Ngalesi sikhathi, usule imfihlo yakho egcinwe ngumlingani wakho isikhathi eside kangaka. Mhlawumbe udinga isikhashana ukuze wehlise umoya, bese uthola ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu kubi okukubi.

 

Khuluma futhi uhlelele okungalindelekile

 

Khuluma nomlingani wakho.

Akulungile, kepha kubonakala kuwukuphela kwendlela yokukhulula imichilo yemizwa ebuhlungu ngokukhuluma ngayo nesithandwa sakho.

Ukwazi ukuthi ucabangani, nokuthi yini abayikhethayo. Kungenzeka ulindele ukuvuma izono noma ukulwa, kepha kufanele uhlale unengqondo futhi ubekezele. Ukuthola kwakho kuyisifundo sempilo, umvuzo wokukhula kwakho ngokomqondo.

Ingabe Kufanele Ngimthethelele?

Hhayi-ke, ungavumeli abangane bakho, umndeni, kanye nemiphumela oyiseshile ku-Google ikunqumele. Landela inhliziyo yakho bese wenza isinqumo sakho.

Ungakhathazeki ngokwedlule. Ngithembe, ngeke kukufanele ukusho kungekudala.

Ukuhlelela okubi kakhulu.

Isehlukaniso. Uma nina nobabili nifinyelela kuleli phuzu, ngeshwa, kufanele nazi ukuthi nizivikela kanjani futhi khombisa ukungathembeki enkantolo ngesehlukaniso.

Revenge. Yebo. Ungagcwaliswa ngenzondo enkulu nentukuthelo. Nenzondo izala impindiselo. Kepha kufanele usebenzise la mandla angaphakathi ngokuhlakanipha. Kufanele uhlale ukhumbula njalo ukuthi ukuziphindisela okuhle ukuzithuthukisa.

 

Ukuphinda

Kubuhlungu ukukhohliswa isithandwa sakho. Kodwa ukuba yidada lokuhlala akuyona akuyona inkambo ehlakaniphile. Ukufakazela ukungathembeki kwakhe, ungaqhubeka ubheka zonke izenzo ezisolisayo zoshade naye ngokukopela iphephabhuku, usebenzisa uhlelo lokuhlola ukuqapha ifoni yakhe noma ukuthola imininingwane esusiwe ezandleni zakhe. Zihudule kanyekanye, bhekana nomlingani wakho wekhohlisa bese uhlela okubi kakhulu. Ungakwenza.

Ekugcineni, nansi ividiyo eyiTed efanelekile yisimo sakho sengqondo esincomela kuwe.

Ukucabanga kabusha ukungathembeki… inkulumo yabanoma ngubani owake wathanda | U-Esther Perel

Ngiyethemba ukujabulele ukufunda lokhu okuthunyelwe.

 

*Imininingwane eminingi mayelana nokungathembeki.Amaqiniso ngokungathembeki

3 Amazwana

  1. Lulu uthi:

    Ngicabanga ukuthi umkami uyangikhohlisa. Ngifuna ukumtholela irekhodi lokushayela ucingo njengoba ngisola ukuthi angayibiza le ndoda.

    • Ian McEwan uthi:

      ku-lulu:

      Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuxhumana okuningi emshadweni kuzoxazulula inkinga enkulu.
      Noma kunjalo. Uma kungasebenzi, kufanele uzame indlela engiyisho kulokhu okuthunyelwe.
      Khetha enye ye-software yokutakula idatha ye-iphone noma ye-android, efana ne-Dr.fone.

      Chofoza ukuze uthole ukulanda mahhala → https://ios-data-recovery.com/download/drfone_recover.exe

      Inqubo elula yezinyathelo ze-3: ipulaki, ihlole bese ubuka kuqala uzothola okufunayo kusuka kuselula.
      Ngiyabonga ukulalela kwenu. Futhi Inhlanhla!

  2. Rebeca uthi:

    kanye lapho okopela ehlala eduma 🙁